This is a post I found by a feminist blogger, demonstrating the fact that Islam and feminism are not incompatible, I agree with the thoughts in the post.
However although the author mentions that a woman’s worth is not determined by her looks, or her virginity, or her intelligence even, she lacks mentioning what our worth is defined as.
The prophet sallalahu allayhi wa salaam stated
“All mankind is from Adam and Eve, an Arab has no superiority over a non-Arab nor a non-Arab has any superiority over an Arab; also a white has no superiority over black nor a black has any superiority over white except by piety and good action.”
Showing that what constitutes a persons worth in the eyes of Allah, is piety and good deeds.
We should only be worried about our worth in the sight of Allah. We don’t need to please people. We need to be secure and confident in our self, and this comes from the knowledge that you are pleasing your creator and doing what is right, despite what anyone might think of you. It is irrelevant what people may think of you.
The thing is, if you are striving to please Allah, then those with good hearts will attribute worth to you, they will want to know you, marry you to their children and so on. Because you will be constantly helping others, doing charity, standing up for those with no voices, being active in the community, striving to seek knowledge, to be the best parent you can be, to be the best spouse you can be
What is the worth of women in Islam?
In Islam the worth of a woman is not defined as comparative to the worth of a man. The behaviour of man is not the yardstick against a woman is judged. Women are women, a sex in their own right.
The prophet sallalahu allayhi wa sallam said;
“Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood, he and I will come like this on the Day of Resurrection,” and he held his fingers together”. Narrated by Muslim, 2631.
One of the first commandmana in the Quran was to stop viewing female children as inferior;;
““And when the female (infant) buried alive – is questioned, for what crime she was killed.” (Quran 81:8-9).
When news is brought to one of them, of (the Birth of) a female (child), his face darkens and he is filled with inward grief! With shame does he hide himself from his people because of the bad news he has had! Shall he retain her on (sufferance) and contempt, or bury her in the dust? Ah! What an evil (choice) they decide on? “(Quran 16: 58-59).
as well as in the Prophet sallalahu allayhi wa salaam’s last sermon;
” Do treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers”
There are many more hadith exalting women;
“This world is enjoyment, and the best of its enjoyment is a righteous woman.””
“The women of this world will have superiority over the hoors just as the outer lining of a garment has superiority over the inner lining.”
“O Women! remember the pious amongst you will enter Jannah before pious men.”
Rasulullah mentioned that;
“the good committed by pious women is equivalent to the Ibadah of seventy awliya“
The status of a mother is held high in Islam, modern feminists are fighting for the recognition of the work women do in the un paid economy, the recognition that being a stay at home mum is a valid choice, and is not less in anyway. Islam already has this.
“Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother” (Ahmad, Nasai
“O Women! Are you satisfied (meaning you should be satisfied) that whenever one of you is impregnated by your husband who is pleased with you, you receive such reward, alone fasting in the path of Allah
or remains awake during the nigh tand when she begins her labour then the inhabitants of the sky and earth pray for the coolness of her eyes, i.e. meaning comfort.When she gives birth, then not even one drop of her milk is discharged nor is the child suckled once from her breast but for every drop or suckle she is rewarded, and because of the child she has to stay up at night she gets rewarded for freeing seventy slaves in the path of Allah”
Also there is eveidence that women’s opinions are to be valued,
“…And they (women) have rights similar to those (of men) over them, and men are a degree above them.” [Noble Quran 2:228]
“...If they (husband wife) desire to wean the child by mutual consent and (after) consultation, there is no blame on them…” [Noble Quran 2:233]
The Quran demonstrates that men should be thankful that women are with them, and the existence of the relationship between man and women, is a sign of Allah
“And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily,in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect”Rasulullah
The following verse shows that in the most important things, that are central to being a Muslim Allah views the duty of a man and a woman equally,
“Surely the men who submit and the women who submit, and the believing men and the believing women, and the obeying men and the obeying women, and the truthful men and the truthful women, and the patient men and the patient women and the humble men and the humble women, and the almsgiving men and the almsgiving women, and the fasting men and the fasting women, and the men who guard their private parts and the women who guard, and the men who remember Allah much and the women who remember-Allah has prepared, for them forgiveness and a mighty reward.” (33:35)
Another thing is the author of the blog says we should do what makes us happy.
But what makes us truly happy and fills the feeling inside. That feeling of guilt, of emptiness, that something is missing, or could be better, or is not quite right, that heaviness you cannot place?
“Truly, it is by the Remembrance of Allah that hearts find rest.” [Qur’an, 13.28].
“True enrichment does not come through possessing a lot of wealth, but true enrichment is the enrichment of the soul.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)