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Sister Lucia

Asalaamu alaykum

Today I went to visit sister Lucia in Brixton. You may have seen the video of her reversion. She is terminally I’ll and with a few weeks to live decided to take her shahadah Allahu akbar.

The house was very peaceful and warm. There were around 7 sisters who were there to visit her today. The sisterhood could be felt MashaAllah. Her room was filled with Islamic literature, Quran, dawah booklets, flowers. All gifts from sisters.

She is very tired but also determined alert and aware. She said little bit what she did say touched the hearts of all there. She spoke of Islam being love and her thankfulness in embracing islam and her love for her muslim husband who had been so patient with her all these years. A sister offered to cook and she said she liked her husbands cooking Alhamdulillah.

You could see her attachment to Quran. She held it looked after it read the English translation. When we prayed salaah and recited there was joy in her face. She went to sleep to recitation if Abu Bakr Shatri surah Yasmin as we were leaving.

Her and her husband are in need of help. Practical help to give him a break. Someone who could come in and help with household chores and caring.

Also we are collecting for a charity fund which will be given in her name.

Don’t let hassanat pass you by.
Don’t forget that which is certain.
Our death and our judgement.

May Allah make it easy for her and her family.
May Allah strengthen the ummah and the ties of sister hood.

“The believer to the believer is like a solid building, one part supporting the other” Bukhari 481 Muslim 2585

Let us support each other.

Don’t forget your sisters

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A young wife sat on a sofa on a hot humid day, drinking iced tea and visiting with her mother. As they talked about life, about marriage, about the responsibilities of life and the obligations of adulthood, the mother clinked the ice cubes in her glass thoughtfully and turned a clear, sober glance upon her daughter.
‘Don’t forget your sisters,’
she advised, swirling the tea leaves to the bottom of her glass.
‘They’ll be more important as you get older. No matter how much you love your husband, no matter how much you love the children you may have, you are still going to need sisters. Remember to go places with them now and then; do things with them.’ ‘Remember that ‘sisters’ means ALL the women… your girlfriends, your daughters, and all your other women relatives too. ‘You’ll need other women. Women always do.’
What a funny piece of advice!’ the young woman thought. Haven’t I just gotten married? Haven’t I just joined the couple-world? I’m now a married woman, for goodness sake! A grownup! Surely my husband and the family we may start will be all I need to make my life worthwhile!’
But she listened to her mother. She kept contact with her sisters and made more women friends each year.. As the years tumbled by, one after another, she gradually came to understand that her mother really knew what she was talking about. As time and nature work their changes and their mysteries upon a woman, sisters are the mainstays of her life.
After more than 50 years of living in this world, here is what I’ve learned: THIS SAYS IT ALL:
Time passes.
Life happens.
Distance separates.
Children grow up.
Jobs come and go.
Love waxes and wanes.
Men don’t do what they’re supposed to do.
Hearts break.
Parents die.
Colleagues forget favors.
Careers end.
BUT……… Sisters are there, no matter how much time and how many miles are between you. A girl friend is never farther away than needing her can reach. When you have to walk that lonesome valley and you have to walk it by yourself, the women in your life will be on the valley’s rim, cheering you on, praying for you, pulling for you, intervening on your behalf, and waiting with open arms at the valley’s end.
Sometimes, they will even break the rules and walk beside you….Or come in and carry you out.
Girlfriends, daughters, granddaughters, daughters-in-law, sisters, sisters-in-law, Mothers, Grandmothers, aunties, nieces, cousins, and extended family: all bless our life!
The world wouldn’t be the same without women, and neither would I. When we began this adventure called womanhood, we had no idea of the incredible joys or sorrows that lay ahead. Nor did we know how much we would need each other. Every day, we need each other still.

“They are not attacking me, they are attacking Allah’s justice.

Hijabi refused prize due to hijab.

 

“”They are not attacking me, they are attacking Allah’s justice. Is the hijab my order or Allah’s order?”

Turkish girl is refused educational award and told to leave the stage because she is wearing hijab. subhanAllah

Do you belittle…

Do you belittle dua’a and discount it
While not knowing what the prayer accomplishes?
The arrows of the night do not miss their target.
They might have a delay, but the delay then comes to an end.

Imam al-Shafi’i Rahimahullah

When Your Dua is answered!

When your dua is answered is an amazing feeling.

As a new Muslim, recently married, my whole lifestyle changed, I was lonely. I vraved companionship and friendship and the company of sisters.

I had tried many things, forums, going to lectures, attending classes. But a lot of the time it seemed like the whole world was a school playground. Everyone already had formed their cliques, and I wasn’t in them. In the classes everyone seemed to be family friends, knowing each other from birth. In the lectures I would try and smile and make eye contact, but all the sisters were too busy with kids or in their own conversations to notice a lone sister with a child. At toddler groups there were many I said hi to and talked to, but I just couldn’t seem to make that jump from casual acquaintance to a friendship.

At that time I was cautious of making dua. I have tawakkul. I know that Allah swt has a plan for me, and that what is written will come. I felt that I was not worthy to ask Allah swt for anything. He swt had given me so much, and I had done so little in return. I was not perfect, I had issues wiith my fardh, how could I ask Allah swt for anything? I did not deserve it.

Also I felt that maybe the things I could ask for would not be what was best for my akhirah. Like I could make dua for my husbands back to be better, and it would benefit us in this life, but at the same time maybe the suffering he is going through now, is cleansing his sins to prevent suffering in the akhirah.

Allah’s Messenger, peace be upon him, said: “For every misfortune, illness, anxiety, grief, or hurt that afflicts a Muslim -even the hurt caused by the pricking of a thorn – Allah removes some of his sins.” Ibn Mas’ud said: “I visited the Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, while he had a fever. I exclaimed: ‘O Messenger of Allah! You have a high fever! ‘ He said: ‘My fever is as much as two among you [might have]. ‘ I asked: ‘Is it because you have a double reward?’ He replied: ‘Yes, that is right. No Muslim is afflicted with any hurt, even if it is no more than the pricking of a thorn, but Allah wipes off his sins because of it and his sins fall away from him as leaves fall from a tree’.”

so, would asking for his back to be better be beneficial? I do not know.

So I thought about the thing I wanted carefully. What did I want to ask for? I wanted friends, company, but not just any company, the company of practicing sisters who would encourage me in my Islam and benefit my akhirah. I looked at this from different angles, but I could not find anything wrong with the thing I wanted to ask for. So then I started making the dua, after every salaah I lifted my hands and asked Allah swt to send me practicing friends.

And He swt did. After just two days a random sister at my daughters nursery came and asked me if I wanted to join them for lunch. SubhanAllah, to me that simple, short interaction was a miracle. After years of trying and getting nowhere, suddenly I didn’t even try and it occurred  I did not go that day, but since then there have been many lunches and get togethers alhamdulillah. I knew these sisters were sent from Allah. There were times I became uncertain of their affiliations, nothing major, just curious. However I knew they were the answers to my dua, and I put my trust in Allah swt.

Although I don’t see them that often anymore, it doesn’t change anything.It doesn’t cause a distance between us. Also Allah provided me with more sisters, who encourage me and motivate me in different ways.

Alhamdulillah for sisterhood,

This is the way Allah answered my duas. This is my small miracle. What is yours?

The Best Part of Eid

The Best Part of Eid

So the second night of Eid has started, what has been your favourite moment of Eid al Adha so far?

Mine has definitely been Eid Salaah this morning at Darus Salaam Masjid | House of Peace, I managed to arrange to meet a few friends and we prayed Eid salaah side by side, alhamdulillah. It was the first time praying the Eid Salaah for two of them, so I had a blessed opportunity to re experience the amazing feelings and joy of praying in congregation on Eid day for the first time, and I was priviledged enough to share in this moment in 2 other sisters lives!

Eid Salaah really makes Eid day for me, you feel like an ummah, a community, sisters you don’t know come up to you and shake your hand and hug you and wish you Eid Mubarak, the recitation during salaah and the khutbah brings tears to my eyes. This is what I feel Eid should be about.

The rest of the day sitting in houses is a bit meh! compared to that experience in one of the houses of Allah.

so jazakallahkhayr to Rabiya, Ranga and Yasmin for joining me in Eid salaah, I hope we can repeat this experience in years to come, and convince other sisters to take a break from the kitchen and join us! you really made my Eid day special ♥

Allahu akbar Allahu akbar, wa la ilaha ilAllahu, wa Allahu akbar Allahu akbar wa ila il hamd.

(The cake was made by Asma @ https://www.facebook.com/SugaredSaffron she is available for wedding and party orders, and is a fantastic cake maker and decorator!)

Little Ilford Eid Extravaganza!!!

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The Inspiring story of Komal Rashid

http://www.justgiving.com/KomalRashid

My story

As we were bidding farewell to Ramadan, Komal Rashid, our dear sister in Islam, was bidding farewell to this world. She passed away at the age of 20, after suffering from cancer. She used to be a student at City University.

Our sister Komal changed the lives of so many people. She suffered so intensely and yet rarely ceased to remember the suffering of the Muslim Ummah. May Allah bestow his unending Mercy and forgiveness upon her, ameen.

Komal has left this world and embarked upon the inevitable journey, a reality which awaits us all. There is no denying the fact that one day we too will be alone in our graves, wishing we could ransom everything we had for a chance to earn Allah’s forgiveness.

The Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When a man dies, his good deeds come to an end except three: ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge and a righteous son who will pray for him.” Narrated by Muslim, 3084.  

Imagine how desperate you would be for a chance to return to the world and earn just one good deed. But your time will be up, and there will be no return. One of the only things that can help you is Sadaqah Jariah (ongoing charity). Imagine how much you would want your brothers and sisters in Islam to help you, imagine how much you would want them to donate even a single penny on your behalf. Right now, our sister, Komal, needs our help, and Alhamdulillah we have the opportunity to donate Sadaqah Jariyah on her behalf.

“Whosoever digs a well will receive reward for that from Allah on the Day of Judgement when anyone amongst jinn, men and birds drink from it” – Bukhari and Muslim

We plan to raise funds to take part in a water well project, on behalf of Komal. We will be raising funds for Ummah Welfare trust, to see more info visit the charity’s website here:

Building a water well is a form of ongoing charity, because the charity doesn’t stop as soon as the well is built – the charity is continuous and ongoing each time the well is used.In countries where thousands of people are dying of thirst, and are desperate enough to drink from dangerous disease-ridden puddles, imagine how precious each drop of clean water the well provides will be to them. Every time the well is used, the reward for providing clean water will be given to Komal, Bi idhnillah. Imagine how many lives the well could save.

  “..and if anyone saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all mankind…” Surah al-Maa’idah (5:32) 

Subhanallah. The reward for saving just one life is so immense, imagine how many lives a water well could save. InshaAllah, Komal will benefit from these rewards, thanks to you.

Your sister in Islam, Komal, needs you. One day we too will be in our graves. One day we will need our brothers and sisters to help us, but how can we expect help if we have never helped others? This is your chance to make a difference, to Komal, and also to the people in desperate need of water. Don’t let this opportunity to partake in this good act pass you by, hasten to this good deed.

“They believe in Allah and the Last Day, and they enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong and hasten to good deeds. And those are among the righteous.”  – Surah Al-Imran (3:114)

We must try to grab this opportunity inshaAllah, because we don’t know when we will get another chance to earn good deeds and forgiveness. As we have seen, death comes without warning, andthis could easily be our last opportunity.  

So inshaAllah let us hasten towards this good deed, with the intention of giving sadaqah Jariyah on behalf of our dear sister Komal Rashid, may Allah accept your donations and reward you, ameen.

nna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon…

It is with great sadness that CityUniversity Islamic Society announces the loss of one of its members, who has left behind many contributions, memories, and whose death has by the will of Allah, inspired many to take Islam more seriously and to reflect upon the realities of this life. Sister Komal Rashid, who was tested with a very rare and severe abdominal cancer has returned to Allah the Almighty on Saturday 18/08/12, which was the very last day of Ramadan.

She was a student of Optometry at City University. Our beloved prophet Muhammed peace be upon him has taught us to mention the good deeds of the deceased and to pray for them and hence the purpose of this article is to share with you some reflections and some inspiring details about our sister’s experience, hoping that she will benefit from your duaa’ and also hoping for you to take inspiration to increase your zeal for Islam and for the serving of it, both on campus and in your general life. Despite the common thought that death is far from the youth, Komal passed away at the age of 20. She was just like you, a student who went school, college and worked hard to come to university. It was by Allah’s mercy that Komal was a practicing Muslim and her passion for Islam had noticeably increased during the last year of her life, despite her not knowing about the approaching calamity. She was a keen student of knowledge who spent a lot of her time learning about Islam and giving dawah. Several individuals have been guided by Allah to Islam through her dawah, including her own close friend whom she knew since a very young age and who proved to be a great example of a true friend and sister in Islam, having accompanied Komal in hospital all the time until she died. In addition to all this, Komal was known to be so fierce against innovations and polytheistic practices and detested people’s putting forward of their own personal opinions to matters whose rulings have been made clear in Islam. She loved quoting this to her opponents

: ‘It is not befitting for a believing man and believing woman, when a matter has been decided by Allah and His messenger, to have any option about their decision.’[1]

Her deep love for Islam and sacrifices for it have made her lose a great deal of interest in worldly matters and she longed to meet Allah the Almighty and enter Jannah. It was well known that Komal’s greatest wish was to die as a martyr and more surprisingly she deeply wished (even when she was in severe pain) to partake in the struggle against tyranny, particularly in the blessed land of Al-Sham. She had made a duaa’, asking Allah the Almighty to raise her in rank, purify her and bring her close to Him and soon after, she received the news about her cancer. Despite the pain and the rarity of her condition, she was very patient, content and even thankful to Allah.

‘Allah tests those whom He loves most’, ‘you have no idea how content I am with my cancer. Allah has chosen me’

– these were her words said often, particularly when her guests cried. Mostly remembered was her constant saying of ‘Alhamdulila’ (praise be to Allah) when she was in the Intensive Care Unit, while being heavily sedated. She used to also shout, ‘Laa hawla walaa quata ila billah’ when she went through moments of sudden and severe pain. Additionally, while being sedated in the ICU, she would ask for updates about the situation in Syria and would make duaa for the Muslims and say, ‘At least I get the medical care.’

What is more is that she would remember to pray ‘Asr while being sedated and would say the takbeer and lift her hands up. Our dearest Komal, loving was her heart and beautiful were her manners. She had some dreams towards the last weeks of her life, which she strongly perceived to be a sign about the closeness of her death, but she did not tell them to her mother, family and friends, as she did not want to upset anyone, particularly her mother, as everyone had hope for her recovery. She only informed a sheikh who came for her ruqya and asked him to only share the dream and some advice she left for her family if calamity strikes, and so he did. Days after the sheikh had heard of her death, he informed her family about Komal’s dream. Her dream was that she saw a house, its inside was seen from the outside and it was packed with children. Outside this house stood prophet Ibrahim peace be upon him and she knew who he was, so she asked him about that house, and he responded ‘This is your house in Jannah’. For some, this beautiful dream brought to mind this haddith,

‘In Paradise there is a house whose outside can be seen from the inside and whose inside can be seen from the outside.” It was asked: Who is this for o Messenger of Allah? He said: “It is for the one who makes his speech good and decent, who feeds others and spends the night standing (in prayer) whilst others are sleeping.” [2]

Komal was one of those who prayed tahajud almost daily during her life, and in fact, the very last thing she did just before she fell into the final coma, was prayed two rakaat of tahajud at 1am. May Allah make this dream become a reality for Komal. The last few days of her life were very difficult for her family and friends. Her condition suddenly deteriorated at midnight and she asked the nurses to call her parents to come over to the hospital and they came rushing. She then said to her mother, ‘Mum, take me home. I am not going to make it. Life and death are in the hands of Allah. These doctors can’t do anything to save me.’ Little did everyone know that she was going to die in two days time. Her mother, feeling desperate to help her daughter refused to take her home. She then sat beside Komal and watched her fall asleep. In her sleep, Komal began smiling, lifting her arm up and pointing with her finger saying ‘Look, rivers of honey and milk, trees of apples and bananas.’ It was very rare to see her smile at that time as she was in severe pain as her cancer was spreading. Her mother was bewildered, and tried to wake her up, but Komal replied with an assertive voice, ‘No, I’m happy’. She woke up after and refused to talk about her dream despite being asked about it. Komal passed away two days after this incident.

After her death, she was no longer referred to as ‘Komal’; rather it was the ‘body’. The reality of her death had hit us hard. Many Muslims gathered for her Janazah and burial, which took place on 21/08/12. Indeed, this is the reality of life and the grave is a station to which we are all heading and our actions can make it either a garden from Jannah or a hole from Jahannam. Komal feared the grave and the punishment of the grave. Who wouldn’t? Great companions such as Abu Bakr may Allah be pleased with him stood by the grave and cried. Muhammed peace be upon him said,

‘Verily the grave is the first station for the Hereafter; so if he is saved from it, then what comes after is easier than it. And if he is not saved from it, then that which comes after is harder.’[3]

May Allah save Komal from the punishment of the grave and expand her grave for her. Alhamdulila, we were very pleased to know that Komal used to recite surat al-Mulk regularly, and it is urged that you memorise it and recite it often too. [4] Allah the Almighty says,

‘Every soul is certain to taste death: We test you all through the bad and the good, and to Us you will all return.’ [5]

This is the undeniable truth! You would only be fooling yourself to allow yourself to take your youth and health for granted and assume that your day is still far ahead. Think to yourself, am I ready to meet Allah? What have I achieved? And am I fulfilling the purpose for which I exist to the best of my ability? Do take this seriously, before the day comes when you will be in utter regret and wishing from the deepest of your heart that you had added more good deeds to your scale and removed more sins from it. City ISoc is here to support you throughout your stay at university to develop in your Iman and knowledge in Islam, by running many beneficial activities and also by being the platform for righteous companionship. Do not undermine the importance of having righteous companions. Not only will they help you to stay on the right path, but they will also take up most of the rows in the masjid on the day of your Janazah bi’. Who wouldn’t want righteous Muslims to come and pray for them, perhaps Allah may forgive you because of their duaa’. Remember we are only here for a short while, so utulise every opportunity that you have to gain more reward, seek forgiveness from Allah and seek His pleasure, so that you may be saved in the horrors of the grave, entered into Jannah and most beautifully granted the ultimate reward of seeing the Face of Allah,

‘On that day, there will be radiant faces, looking towards their Lord.’ [6]

Our eyes shed tears, sorrow fills our hearts and we are so saddened by the loss of Komal, but we only say that which is pleasing to Allah: to Allah we belong and unto Him we shall all return. May Allah forgive Komal and envelope her in His Mercy. May He expand her grave for her, wash her with water, snow and hail. May He give her an abode better than her home and family better than her family. May He take her to Jannah and protect her from the punishment of the grave. May He accept her as a martyr. Ameen And may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon Muhammed, his family, companions and those who follow. [1] Al-Ahzab: 36 [2] Reported by al-Haakim [3] Ahmad,1/225 [4] Ibn masud may Allah be pleased with him reported that Muhammed peace be upon him said, ‘

A man will be approached (with punishment) in his grave from his leg and from his chest and then from his head. And each time, surat al-mulk will defend him by saying, ‘You cannot harm him, used to recite surat Al-mulk’. Indeed, surat al-mulk is the ‘maani-aa’, for it protects from the punishment of the grave.’Saheeh Al-targheeb, no. 1475, graded as authentic by Al-Albani. [5] Al-Quran, 21:35. [6]

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