Be mindful that Shaytan is ever-present in trying to pull you and your spouse apart. He whispers into your ears to say the exact words that will push the hot buttons in your spouse, causing retaliation, and an unfortunate argument
Advice from a sincere sister
Sisters.. I once heard a talk that said when we fight with our spouse we are really fighting(arguing) with Shaytaan since in Islam we have the tools to stop a disagreement escalating into a full blown fight. Insha’Allah take a drink of water, sit down or even excuse yourself and walk away (discuss this as a method together first) and make dua’ah then return..seeking refuge in Allah.